Ok, so maybe I'm going out on a limb, but I really think that sometimes, writing is like parenting. Allow me a few moments to elaborate.
When you have kids, everyone will tell you how to raise them. How to discipline, how not to discipline, how to get them to sleep, how to get them to do their homework, eat their dinner etc etc etc. Everyone is so filled with advice, but it is the job of the parent to know their child and to determine which course of action is the best one.
When you are writing a book everyone will tell you how to write it. How to outline, how to revise, how to fix your logic fails and your plot holes. They'll have insight on how you should develop your characters and whether or not you should write a sequel. It is the job of the writer to know their project and to determine which course of action is the best one, what will get edited out and what will make the cut.
As a parent one should be careful of falling into the trap of peer pressure and pigeon holing. What works for one child will not work for another. What one parent can do easily, another might struggle with. It's the same with writing. You can't write someone else's vision of your book, you have to write your vision. Methods that work for Stephen King may not work for you, and that's okay.
Nurture your talent as you would nurture your child. Take the good advice with the bad, and only use what you think will work for you.